So, you've made it this far -- actually planning your wedding yourself. Perhaps you've been thinking about this for many years, maybe you haven't even given it a thought. The time has come to talk together about this.

        Plenty of books abound which tell you all the ins and outs of weddings. These you can buy or borrow for help in arranging details. I would like to caution you not to be blown over by all the wedding arrangements. Your wedding is first and foremost not a production, but a celebration. Focus upon what is most important: your commitment to each other in the presence of God and a group of people - people who care enough, about you and God, to stand with you in that high moment as well as high and low moments in the future.

        Don't lose sight of what you are doing as you handle all the details. A beautiful wedding gown, attendant's outfits, handsome tuxedos, rings, flowers, pictures, videos, guest lists, gifts, rehearsal dinners, receptions, honeymoons, etc. don't make your special day "a day to remember." As important as all these may be, it is your commitment that should provide a remembrance worthy of the ups and downs of married life.

        Okay, the time has come to talk together about what you do when you say "I do." I'd encourage you to work as a team in planning your wedding, even if one of you takes the lead. Talk about it! Work together! How you plan your wedding will be, in small part, an indication of how you will work together in your marriage.

        To help you plan - we have created this notebook. It’s full of all sorts of suggestions, traditional and untraditional. Please see it as a resource, not a law book. It’s here for you, to use as much or as little as you see fit. God bless you as you work together.